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This and Not This: What You Resist, Persists


I use the phrase what you resist, persists with my clients all the time. At first glance, the idea that if you resist something it will persist sounds pretty counter-intuitive.

If you’re fighting against something, you might be thinking, how could that make it stronger?

Well, here’s the thing: it’s a matter of where you are putting your attention and energy.

If you are saying, “Not This.  Not This.  Not This.”  Where is all your energy?  On THIS, of course.

For example, say that you want to lose weight.  If you spend all your time saying and thinking to yourself, “I’m so fat.  I don’t want to be fat.  Ugh, I hate how fat I look.”  Where is your attention and energy?  On being fat!  (And by the way, nothing will drive you to emotional eating like telling yourself you’re fat.  I know this from personal experience.)

When you want something to change, the very first step is to identify your vision.

What do you want?  What is the opposite of Not This?  Be as detailed as you can in your description.  What does it look like, smell like, taste like, feel like?  How will you know when you have arrived at That (Not This)?

The Vision Board

Research shows we are wired to respond to images. If you’re really serious about wanting the change, make a vision board, which is a fancy, woo-woo term for a collage of pictures that capture your intention and deeply impress all of the good feelings around it into your mind.   If you google “vision board” you’ll find all kinds of how-to videos on youtube.

Here’s my favorite approach to creating a vision board.

  1. Get a stack of old magazines, about 6-10 of them.
  2. Play some music you love.
  3. Go through the magazines as quickly as you can and rip out any image or word that grabs you and is related to your goal.  Don’t over-think it, and don’t start reading the articles.  Just keep moving.
  4. Do this for about 20 minutes.
  5. Then, take all the images and words you grabbed and arrange them on a piece of poster board in a way that pleases you.
  6. Glue them down, and you’ve got your vision board!

Walt Disney said: “If you can dream it, you can do it.”  And dreams, as you know, are pictures.  Help your brain see the picture, and you will find yourself on the path before you know it.

Thoughts?  Questions?  Yeah buts? Helping people find their vision is one of my favorite things to do. Let’s talk about it in the comments below, or click here to join me for my free monthly call.


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6 Responses to This and Not This: What You Resist, Persists

  1. Lauren September 7, 2011 at 2:49 pm #

    I believe this to be absolute gospel!

    • Julica Hermann September 7, 2011 at 8:24 pm #

      Thank you, sweetie — and thank you for asking me to write about it! : )

  2. Julianna Ricci September 23, 2011 at 2:08 pm #

    I LOVE this. Thank you for the reminder – as well as for your ever-powerful way of expressing thoughts/concepts/life!!!

    • Julica Hermann September 23, 2011 at 2:11 pm #

      awww, stop it, say more! ::grin:: thank you, dear jules, it’s so nice to have you visit and comment!

  3. Pavel February 26, 2012 at 6:22 am #

    Thank you for this great info!! I have a question. For example, if I feel LAZY, I should not try to make myself do something and become active? What should I do? Just accept laziness and let it exist for an hour or two (or until I want to do anything)?

    • Julica Hermann March 1, 2012 at 10:07 am #

      Great question, Pavel! I think it depends what’s behind or underneath the label of “lazy.” Maybe you’re tired — then definitely accept you need a break. Maybe you’re avoiding something scary — then find those beliefs that are holding you back and lovingly let them go.
      Most of all, I encourage you to notice: who is calling you “lazy”? Usually, for me, it’s my inner critic — and I already know *she’s* never satisfied. So I say “thank you for sharing” to that inner critic, and do what my heart indicates I need.
      I hope you find this helpful! :)