I spent this past weekend volunteering at the Landmark Forum. ¬†It has been fifteen years since the first time I attended this program, and I had a great time reviewing the material and reconnecting to the principles that I’ve found useful in my work as a coach and in my own personal development. ¬†(Yes, Landmark has a controversial reputation. ¬†I personally hate the hard-sell approach, but I love and have benefited greatly from their teachings. ¬†If you’re curious to read more about it, the wikipedia article does a pretty good job.)
So let’s set aside the question of whether I drank the kool-aid or not. ¬†I want to share one of the more powerful ideas I took away from this past weekend and start a conversation with you, my dear peep, to get you off your tush. ¬†Here it is:
We are all waiting for someday, and for somebody else to do it. ¬†Someday I will address the personal relationships I have been avoiding. ¬†Someday I will actually tell my supervisor what I think and how we could improve our work environment. ¬†Someday I will be fully self-expressed. ¬†Someday I will have enough money. ¬†Someday we’ll have a Congress that actually does its work and not just worries about re-election. ¬†Someday someone will do something about domestic violence.
There is no someday.
The only time we actually live in is NOW, and now, and now. ¬†If you are waiting to claim your dream, if you are waiting for that perfect moment when ___, you will probably always be waiting.
And that thing you care about? ¬†No one else is going to do anything about it — because nobody else has the perspective that you do. ¬†We all come to challenges in our world and the possibilities that emerge from them from our own singular frame of reference — our set of experiences, history, talents and strengths. ¬†Only you can step up to make the difference that you see possible; no one else sees that possibility like you do.
Every time you say, “This is important to me, and this is what I’m going to do about it,” the world becomes a better place. ¬†Every time you name and claim your heart’s calling, and start taking small turtle steps to make that dream a reality, you inspire someone else to do that too.
We all spend way too much time thinking about our past, our patterns, the things that are making us crazy about ourselves and the people around us. ¬†What would it be like, instead, to focus on a future possibility that you want to make a reality? ¬†What if you trusted that everything you already have and know and are is enough for the task at hand? ¬†Imagine greeting each day like it’s a new opportunity to take a step in the direction of the thing you’ve decided you want. ¬†Imagine choosing to focus on the next thing to be done, rather than the thing that’s been making you crazy for the past two weeks. (Because guess what: it will probably make you crazy today again, too. ¬†Say, “Thank you for sharing,” and move on to the next turtle step on the path you are choosing for yourself.)
Gandhi said, “Whatever you do may seem insignificant to you, but it is most important that you do it.” ¬†In other words, Tag: You’re It. ¬†So what do you stand for, and what are you doing today?
PS. Need some help finding “it”?
I’m very excited about a new class I’ll be teaching this fall. ¬†It starts at the end of October, and there’s a free introductory call on September 29. ¬†If you are tired of yearning but not knowing what your dream is, please join me and other peeps on the journey to name and claim your heart’s calling. ¬†Sign up here for the intro call, or visit the page about the class to learn more about it.