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Tag: You’re It!

I spent this past weekend volunteering at the Landmark Forum. ¬†It has been fifteen years since the first time I attended this program, and I had a great time reviewing the material and reconnecting to the principles that I’ve found useful in my work as a coach and in my own personal development. ¬†(Yes, Landmark has a controversial reputation. ¬†I personally hate the hard-sell approach, but I love and have benefited greatly from their teachings. ¬†If you’re curious to read more about it, the wikipedia article does a pretty good job.)

So let’s set aside the question of whether I drank the kool-aid or not. ¬†I want to share one of the more powerful ideas I took away from this past weekend and start a conversation with you, my dear peep, to get you off your tush. ¬†Here it is:

We are all waiting for someday, and for somebody else to do it. ¬†Someday I will address the personal relationships I have been avoiding. ¬†Someday I will actually tell my supervisor what I think and how we could improve our work environment. ¬†Someday I will be fully self-expressed. ¬†Someday I will have enough money. ¬†Someday we’ll have a Congress that actually does its work and not just worries about re-election. ¬†Someday someone will do something about domestic violence.

There is no someday.

The only time we actually live in is NOW, and now, and now.  If you are waiting to claim your dream, if you are waiting for that perfect moment when ___, you will probably always be waiting.

And that thing you care about? ¬†No one else is going to do anything about it — because nobody else has the perspective that you do. ¬†We all come to challenges in our world and the possibilities that emerge from them from our own singular frame of reference — our set of experiences, history, talents and strengths. ¬†Only you can step up to make the difference that you see possible; no one else sees that possibility like you do.

Every time you say, “This is important to me, and this is what I’m going to do about it,” the world becomes a better place. ¬†Every time you name and claim your heart’s calling, and start taking small turtle steps to make that dream a reality, you inspire someone else to do that too.

We all spend way too much time thinking about our past, our patterns, the things that are making us crazy about ourselves and the people around us. ¬†What would it be like, instead, to focus on a future possibility that you want to make a reality? ¬†What if you trusted that everything you already have and know and are is enough for the task at hand? ¬†Imagine greeting each day like it’s a new opportunity to take a step in the direction of the thing you’ve decided you want. ¬†Imagine choosing to focus on the next thing to be done, rather than the thing that’s been making you crazy for the past two weeks. (Because guess what: it will probably make you crazy today again, too. ¬†Say, “Thank you for sharing,” and move on to the next turtle step on the path you are choosing for yourself.)

Gandhi said, “Whatever you do may seem insignificant to you, but it is most important that you do it.” ¬†In other words, Tag: You’re It. ¬†So what do you stand for, and what are you doing today?

PS. Need some help finding “it”?

I’m very excited about a new class I’ll be teaching this fall. ¬†It starts at the end of October, and there’s a free introductory call on September 29. ¬†If you are tired of yearning but not knowing what your dream is, please join me and other peeps on the journey to name and claim your heart’s calling. ¬†Sign up here for the intro call, or visit the page about the class to learn more about it.

17 Responses to Tag: You’re It!

  1. Lisa Wood September 13, 2011 at 2:46 pm #

    “There is no someday”…I love that. What a powerful statement. I wonder sometimes what makes us say those someday things – if it’s wishing, if it’s a way to put off the hard work it will take to get there, if it’s fear…or a combination of all of the above.

    Your thoughts?

    • Julica Hermann September 13, 2011 at 2:56 pm #

      Hi Lisa,
      I think you’re right, it’s a combination of all the things you mentioned. It’s also that we haven’t been trained to believe it’s possible to act and effect change. School trains us to consume and regurgitate “the truth.” Our society and capitalism more generally trains us to be passive consumers, not active creators. (Hello, television!)

      Also, I think some of our somedays come from our social selves…the part of us that is dictating what we *should* do. In other words, some of our somedays are about how we are going to be better, thinner, more productive, more organized. So we use “someday” as a resistance mechanism, because our essential selves are actually yearning for permission to be exactly as they are, right now.

      The key, I think, is to distinguish which is an essential self longing, and which is a social self should. Whew! I guess I have another post in the making here, huh? :)

  2. Leisa LaDell September 13, 2011 at 2:58 pm #

    Hi Julica –
    What a beautiful site. I love your first post, and…I am a long-time Landmark grad myself. Congratulations, and keep up the good work. Looks to me like you are off to a wonderful start here. Best, Leisa

    • Julica Hermann September 13, 2011 at 3:00 pm #

      Thank you, Leisa! So excited to be blogging. And good to know I’m not the only one that drank the kool-aid! ::grin::

  3. Laura Lee Bloor September 13, 2011 at 3:05 pm #

    I always need refreshers like this — thanks, Julica! I try to approach each day with joy, gratitude, and excitement, but the daily grind just gets in the way sometimes. At least I know I’m moving forward — even if it’s just one step a day.

    • Julica Hermann September 13, 2011 at 3:15 pm #

      Hey there Laura,
      Yes indeed, the daily grind gets in the way unless we stay present to it and set it gently aside — easier said than done! And here’s another thought: maybe it’s not “even if it’s one step a day,” maybe one step a day is all it is! And it’s our programming that makes us believe that if we haven’t taken 10 steps each day, we must be losers. Whaddaya think?

  4. Sandy Morris September 13, 2011 at 3:59 pm #

    What a powerful statement this is, Julica: ‚ÄúWhatever you do may seem insignificant to you, but it is most important that you do it.‚ÄĚ
    It’s amazing that as small as we are, we hold such significance in the world. And yet as you say, so much waits for someday.

    Today I’ll be luxuriating in knowing it’s important that I do what I do – thank you!

    • Julica Hermann September 13, 2011 at 4:08 pm #

      Hi Sandy,
      Yes indeed, it is my favorite Gandhi quote of all. Glad you’re out there doing what there is to do! :)

  5. Kelly Caldwell September 13, 2011 at 7:02 pm #

    I danced around the possibility of Landmark a few times but decided to seek my tools elsewhere (I actually was in the Landmark Forum Main office in the World Trade Center, but luckily not on 9/11. Anyway, great post & I’d LOVE to access the wisdom & tools & sharing passed on via your own spin & not have to attend a forum!

    • Julica Hermann September 13, 2011 at 8:24 pm #

      Happy to share, chica. Will continue to post musings over the next couple of weeks. Lovely to see you here on my blog, thank you for visiting!

  6. Khia September 13, 2011 at 9:41 pm #

    Your new blog looks incredible! Great job on the first post! Looking forward to more to come!

    • Julica Hermann September 13, 2011 at 10:23 pm #

      Thank you, Khia!

  7. Antonina Geer September 14, 2011 at 6:49 am #

    Your blog looks wonderful, Julica! I love “there is no someday”!

  8. Tia Sparkles Singh September 14, 2011 at 9:44 am #

    Julica! Congrats on the blog :) Great first post! I think the someday syndrome is the biggest factor leading to regrets. What stops us is fear, and yet, there are a ton more people saying I wish I had ____ vs I wish I hadn’t ____. Why are we such a scared lot!? Here’s to the people who need your class finding you just in time. Cheers! Tia

  9. Rodger Constandse September 14, 2011 at 12:51 pm #

    Nice job on the new blog :)

    I’ve heard about the Landmark Forum before from different sources… thank you for sharing this timeless lesson.

  10. Tracy September 28, 2011 at 4:46 pm #

    People should read this one every day. The message is a fantastic one – hits you right between the eyes!! People, get moving!!!!
    Thanks for the insight, Julica!

    • Julica Hermann September 29, 2011 at 1:30 pm #

      Tracy, thank you for coming over to comment! I’m glad this idea resonated with you — it’s the post that has the most comments by far, interestingly. Note to self: write more “get off your tush” blog posts. ::grin::