I had a conversation with my sweet soul-sister Laura today that inspired this post.Â We were talking about writing, and this blog, and the feeling of help-I’m-not-doing-it-right if I don’t do it every week, and have a brilliant post each time, and get at least 20 comments raving on my wisdom.Â Umm…expectations, anyone?
We were also comparing the experience that I have when I’m coaching a client, or teaching a teleclass, to the experience of writing.Â And that’s when we identified the oh-so-important difference: one is a process I trust, the other is a performance I need to deliver.
Like a row of dominoes, a lot of things fell into place at that moment of our conversation.Â I’ve spent a considerable amount of time in the past eight years growing my certainty and skills as a coach.Â I’ve been practicing the tools and methods I use every day.Â I’ve done it so often, now I just show up and trust the process.Â It’s easy, it’s fun, it plays to my strengths.
Writing, on the other hand, is pretty new to me.Â I started this blog a couple of months ago because I wanted to create a space where I could deliver value to my peeps and future peeps. (Hi there, peep!Â ::waving at you::)
The last time I did any serious writing I was in grad school — and baby, it’s ALL about performance there.Â You’d better get it right, and you’d better have your facts straight, and you’d better be brilliant every single time, or you’ll get slashed to bits.Â Or ignored, which is even worse.Â So, hello!Â Of course I have performance anxiety when it comes to writing.
Well, I thought that would be a good thing to blog about.Â And so I hereby commit to writing as a practice and a process.Â One that I will engage with love, curiosity and hope.Â One that will occur organically, not every week on schedule.Â A practice that is authentic, and self-nurturing, and flexible.Â In other words, a practice that is in alignment with the talk I preach to my clients, and continue to walk myself every day.
And you, dear peep?Â Is there something you’ve been holding in performance mode, that would benefit from shifting to practice and process?Â Do share; I look forward to having a conversation with you about it in the comments below.