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On Being Unstoppable

Recently, my friend Kyeli and I were promoting a joint class.  As part of our marketing, we asked our friends and colleagues to use social media and help us spread the word; we gave them a variety of examples and quotes that they could use to tweet and mention on Facebook.  I was fascinated to notice that one phrase in particular was used so much more than all the others: “Do you want to be an unstoppable force for good in the world?”

The idea of being unstoppable is quite magnetic.  Especially when it comes to making a difference, the picture of a person overcoming huge obstacles to prevail and beat the bad guys is the stuff of movies and dreams.  We all want to be unstoppable, don’t we?

Well, there are many different elements that play into what it takes to be unstoppable.  Today I’ll address the one that is perhaps the most paradoxical: knowing when to stop.

A Losing Season That Never Ends

Many moons ago, when I was completing my first coach certification program, Dave Buck — my teacher and the CEO of Coachville — said something that stuck in my head: most people are playing unwinnable games in a losing season that never ends.  He pointed out that athletes and high performers are able to clearly distinguish when it’s time to play full out (Game ON) and when it’s time to recuperate (Game OVER).  But in our day-to-day lives, we don’t do that.  We don’t say “game over.”  We don’t take a break.  We just continue with to-do lists that go on forever and gain twice as many additions for every crossed-out item.

This is not a sustainable way of being, my dear peep.  Whether the metaphor is an athlete playing full out, or an artist on stage giving their heart to the performance, it’s important to know when to go dark.

Nature Can Help

And it just so happens that we are coming up on the darkest time of the year, the Winter Solstice.  All around us, squirrels and other small creatures are fattening up and getting ready to crawl into hibernation.  Our pets get fluffy and sleepy.  The harvest has been collected, the trees go quiet – it’s the time of year to renew and get ready for what’s coming next.

That is my invitation to you, my dear peep.  In the midst of the holiday madness, may you find time to slow down, to take stock of what went well this year and what needs to be called good enough.  May you find moments to stop, to breathe, to notice what your heart longs for next.

I guarantee you this: the more you listen to your body and learn when and where you need to stop, the more you will be an unstoppable force in the world, where you are so badly needed.

Walking My Talk

In the spirit of “do as I do, and not only as I say,” I hereby declare this blog to be sleepy and hibernating until the new year.  I will be using this month to go within, go deep, and find what needs to happen next in my life and in my business, to better serve all your fabulous world-changing peeps out there.  I look forward to reporting back on my discoveries.

And in the meantime, have a glorious and glittery holiday season, dearest peep!  See you in the new year!

20 Responses to On Being Unstoppable

  1. Barbara Stafford December 1, 2011 at 10:24 pm #

    Wise words, Julica! We’re so hypnotized to do, do, do in our culture, we forget the value of just stopping and <> being! So much good stuff comes from just sitting in the silence and stillness. It’s not a luxury, it’s a necessity.

    I’m going to be joining you and the squirrels in slowing down and hibernating work-wise for the last two weeks of 2011.

    Enjoy your time off!


    • Julica Hermann December 2, 2011 at 4:24 pm #

      Thank you, Barbara! My commitment is to not find twenty *other* things I could be doing instead of blogging, ha ha!

  2. Nailah December 1, 2011 at 10:55 pm #

    Thank you for the important reminder! It is so easy to get caught up in a go-go-go state of mind but we all need the time to refresh and rejuvenate. Enjoy your time off!

    • Julica Hermann December 2, 2011 at 4:25 pm #

      Thank you, Nailah. Though I’ve been playing the self-care game for a while, this feels like a new and deeper level of commitment. :)

  3. Debbie Weil December 2, 2011 at 8:45 am #

    Beautifully written – kudos. Perf as we head into this season of madness (and family and joy… ). I may reference on my blog as the perfect reason for a holiday hiatus.

    • Julica Hermann December 2, 2011 at 4:26 pm #

      Thank you, Debbie! Honored to inspire your own writing.

  4. jami scholl December 2, 2011 at 8:45 am #

    I can truly appreciate the nature metaphor – I begin yawning about an hour after sundown, yet because of other obligations (mostly kids!) I must stay up and then find it difficult to sleep. I feel I am on a broken cycle cheap energy provides.

    “most people are playing unwinnable games in a losing season that never ends.” So true. The best thing is that when we consciously schedule “down-time” we can come back to our passion, our work, with new ideas, refreshed enthusiasm, and an energy level that is truly unstoppable!

    Hibernate well, Julica, I look forward to what you will bring forth in the New Year!

    • Julica Hermann December 2, 2011 at 4:27 pm #

      Yes, Jami, we are all kids and parents over-stimulated. Perhaps one day soon I’ll start turning the lights down in the house as they go down out in the world…that would be an interesting experiment, hm? The idea of hibernating children sure sounds good… :)

  5. Larah December 2, 2011 at 9:11 am #

    This is wonderful, beautiful advice Julica! We all need to take time to recharge and renew and and this is the most natural time of year to do that.

    Oddly, this also tends to be when we get the most frazzled. I’d challenge people to use this advice to reframe their idea of the “perfect” holiday. Relax into it and remove all of the pressure we apply on ourselves to make everything “just right.” The season shouldn’t drain you…it should rejuvenate you.

    • Julica Hermann December 2, 2011 at 4:29 pm #

      Yes indeed, Larah. As my daughters get older, I find myself yearning for more rituals based in nature and goddess energy…following the flow, creating holidays that actually resonate to my spiritual beliefs.

      Ooof. That sounds like a little too much for this year, though. Maybe something to think about for the next time around…

  6. Julie Daley December 2, 2011 at 9:59 am #

    Julica, I celebrate this season of hibernation, and I celebrate how you share this with your readers in such a compelling and authentic way.

    I’ve noticed that I’ve only posted 2x in the last three weeks….something so unusual for me. As I read your words, I realize I have been internal and inward, and not really in a place of being out there, so to speak. I didn’t do this consciously, but rather it happened. Guess it might be a chance to share this with my readers.

    I enjoy your writing and look forward to reading more when you step back up to the keyboard.


    • Julica Hermann December 2, 2011 at 4:31 pm #

      Thank you for your kind words, Julie! I look forward to seeing what comes next, too.

      And I love your recognition that you were already riding this wave. May your year end gracefully and magically.

  7. Rhiannon December 2, 2011 at 11:32 am #

    I feel happy-sleepy-content now. Thank you for the reminder to slow down; goddess knows I need it. :)

    • Julica Hermann December 2, 2011 at 4:32 pm #

      Yay, so glad to read this. I *was* feeling sleepy, until all my fabulous friends came over to comment! LOL

      No worries. Sleepy is just around the corner again, I can feel it coming. ::grin::

  8. Desiree Adaway December 2, 2011 at 12:43 pm #


    What a great post! Just like you I am slowing things down. This is the time of year where I look back and reflect on my life. I look at my work, my personal life, my financial health, my emotional health and my physical health.

    I do a 360 review of me.

    Thanks for sharing your wisdom. Just what I needed to hear today as I start my journey of reflection.


    • Julica Hermann December 2, 2011 at 4:33 pm #

      Thank you, Desiree! May your 360 be filled with laughter and compassion and self-recognition and joy. And more fabulous ideas for the new year!

  9. Rachel Rodgers December 2, 2011 at 1:01 pm #

    “May you find moments to stop, to breathe, to notice what your heart longs for next.” <– I love this line!

    I have been pondering what my "heart longs for next" the past week or so and doing some planning for 2012. But I have also been trying to get some work out before the end of the year. Thanks for making me realize that its hard to do both at the same time. I'm just about ready to let the curtail fall on 2011. Its been a good year.

    Thanks for the message, Julica, and kudos to you for knowing when to slow down.

    • Julica Hermann December 2, 2011 at 4:35 pm #

      You are unbelievable, Rach. That you are doing all of this while you also welcome your new sweetie pie into the world is mind-boggling to me.

      Go you! Glad my post helped you take a deep breath and call 2011 good. You were pretty fabulous, from where I was watching!


  10. Yolanda December 2, 2011 at 5:19 pm #

    You know…. I really should follow this advice! I seem to say regularly “I need a vacation”. I said it again today.

    I don’t really need a vacation as much as time to stop and really think about the “whole” of it. Sometimes we just need to stop doing and start “stewing”…

    BTW since I never follow my own advice I should try to follow yours!

    Have a wonderful holiday!

    • Julica Hermann December 3, 2011 at 7:24 am #

      You are hilarious as usual, Yolanda. LOL

      Good to know my advice is supporting your own inner wisdom. Take a break, already!

      And happy holidays to you too, my dear. :)